Surprise! I didn’t drag myself to Adair yesterday. I found a million other things to do. Laundry, paying bills, phone calls, wedding details, you name it. Anything but that. I got a phone call this morning from Jenna’s old friend and former college roommate, Heidi Adair. Her husband offered to come to the house or even Handmaker to get the arrangements in place without having to go to that creepy room with all the caskets and urns everywhere. Thank god. We just went through that last year with Mickey and I was totally dreading it.
It was a beautiful day. For the first time this year, we could feel fall in the air. Mom had her ups and downs. She went between okay and sad, sometimes you could understand her, sometimes you couldn’t. Sometimes she was awake, other times she was totally out. She ate a little more, but still not much. When Tyler and I got back in the evening, Dan, the night aid, was sitting by her bedside feeding her. I relieved him and took over, but it was very sweet. She has won over the hearts of her caregivers.
I had another meeting with the hospice nurse and the hospice social worker. What a caring couple of people. We all decided that if something happens while we are in Texas, no one will contact us between Thursday and Sunday at noon. This will give us the opportunity to enjoy the wedding and Jenna can leave on her honeymoon without being totally sad. So even if you have my mobile number and you know-DO NOT CALL ME if she passes away at that time. It won’t change anything. We all get a few days break and Jenna can enjoy her wedding and honeymoon without grief.
Tyler’s old friend, Germaine, who used to work at the bank where mom and Mickeys accounts are, called her former manager who will help us release a CD to pay for mom’s very expensive care and the upkeep of the house. Another wonderful person who has helped us when we need it. It makes a huge difference at this rough time.
In the meanwhile mom made a few more goodbye Skype and FaceTime calls. She still didn’t get to talk to her closest sister, Alice. And we will keep trying-it’s very important to her.