Shoes! When we started our adventure to hospitals, re-habs, and nursing homes, it was tank top and flip-flop weather. Now, here we are in jeans and shoes already. Where the hell did the summer go? Oh, yeah, now I remember-it was snatched from us by cancer……

When you visit makes a difference. And it also seems to change day to day. At this point, mornings are pointless. Mom seems to come around after 1:00pm. Evenings are touch and go. The night before, Tyler sat with her and she never woke up, talked or held his hand. Yesterday, I went down around 11:00 so she could FaceTime with her favorite sister, Alice and niece Steffie. She had little to say and drifted in and out. By 12:30, I left. I have been there countless hours and watched her sleep. Yesterday, I had a full day of things that had to be done. I heard from Patricia that mom was awake and engaged in the afternoon. Tyler and I went together after he got off work and she was still awake. She talked a little, smiled, held his hand.

I have learned that if you get there and she’s asleep, if she doesn’t wake up in the first 10-15 minutes, she probably won’t. Just leave and try another time. It’s frustrating and she doesn’t know you’re there. On Thursday she knew exactly who visited in the afternoon but didn’t remember that I was there or that we FaceTimed with Alice and Steffie. She didn’t remember seeing Bob. I’m waiting to go until around 1:30 and will bring Molina’s beans.

I finally got Connie’s airline ticket cancelled and refunded today and mom’s flight cancelled. Hers was non refundable, but they refunded more than half and told me how and when to get the rest refunded. Plus the agent was very kind……Southwest Airlines, you rock!